I have always heard from my introvert friends that Dating is not their thing. Some of them outright reject the notion of Love saying that it’s all psychology and understanding. Sure, that’s one way to look at it, but according to me, Introverts, just like extroverts can have real, meaningful relationships by dating other people. And it doesn’t necessarily involve dating other introverts!
The thing about being an introvert in dating is knowing your likes, dislikes and never letting it get heavy on your partner. This doesn’t necessarily mean changing yourself too. The core thing to understand is that there are no black and white bands which define a person as an extrovert or an introvert. It is a spectrum and that everyone falls into one of the gray shades of the same.
Here are 5 things that if you keep in mind, will help you immensely when you step into the dating world!
- Be calm and understand that your thoughts or words may surprise others
Introverts tend to think differently. Sometimes, their thoughts are too deep and may not be comprehensible by their partners immediately. It is important to note here that you should give your partner some time to adjust and know your thinking. Don’t just give up by saying that your thinkings don’t match. It is one of the most premature problems introverts face while dating extroverts.
- It is okay to say “No” to loud parties. Sometimes!
Many a time, I see relationships break due to the misunderstanding of likings and tolerance levels of the partners. While an extrovert partner should know your comfort zone, it is equally your responsibility to politely decline idea of a large crowd which you are sure to drain your energy out. Instead, you should suggest an alternative social solution that both of you can happily agree to.
- Introverts may like being alone, but that doesn’t mean complete isolation
Sometimes you may feel like not going out for a dinner date that your partner had planned. If it is possible, don’t ditch preplanned dates, but incase of other days, let them know that you are in a mood to sit by your house and enjoy a hot cup of chocolate with your favorite novel. This doesn’t mean they can’t join you. Both of you can still be in the same room, under the same blanket and still do your own things. These kinds of dates, help keep the intimacy and also let your introvert energy recuperate.
- Respect the other person’s expectations and give them a surprise every once in a while
If your partner is putting up an effort to let you be yourself in the relationship, you can give them a surprise every once in a while. You can go out with them or suggest throwing a party of your own. This doesn’t have to involve you connect with hundreds of people for the whole evening. You can do your thing and be in a corner for the most part of evening and it would still make them happy.
- Be straightforward, Always
Sometimes, Introvert-extrovert combinations just aren’t the right fit. Mind you sometimes they can complement each other and kick-ass too! The thing here is to remember to be yourself and be honest to your partner. Don’t pretend to like something that you don’t and don’t pretend to not mind having something not present that you most utterly look for in your relationships. Only once the fundamentals click, can the rest of relationship be fruitful!
That’s it for now! So just go out there and make the most of today!